The Gem

Pushing Rope

Ever have one of those days (weeks?) where every direction you turn it's something new that isn't working?

Perhaps it's a conversation you're having with someone and you feel like you're speaking in Whale. Perhaps it's that you're trying desperately to be on time and the world around you (the kids, the dog, the car, the traffic) is in slow motion. Maybe it's that at work you can see opportunities, but for some reason, no matter how you toil, they aren't coming to fruition.

It's like you're standing in that fabulous cage full of blowing money, but they gave you satin gloves for your turn so you can't grasp a single bill.

This is what I call "pushing rope." We all do it. I usually don't recognize I'm doing it until I'm way in it. I look around me and wonder why nothing's working, despite my grand efforts.

Some things aren't meant to be pushed.

• Wagons (well, you can, but it takes great skill and concentration to keep it going straight)
• Doors that say "pull"
• Wisk brooms (although toddlers insist on it, don't they?!)
• And rope.

It's best to try from the other side with a gentle pull. Sometimes that means learning a new language. Sometimes it means understanding that slowing down for the moment might get you to your destination faster than rushing. Sometimes it means simply being who you are and living your values so that others can respect (and even be attracted to) what's living in you your life.

What are you pushing? What could use a little pull instead?

Ready to stop pushing?