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Pushing Rope

pushing rope
Writer’s note:  “Pushing Rope” was written 6 years ago and revisited as it was timely after a week of banging my head against a wall.  Since that time, the Urban Dictionary has tossed my title/concept to the gutter.  Although I understand the validity of their meaning (in fact, it drives the point home, so to speak), I hope you can stop laughing long enough to gather some worth from my non-sexually-intended blog, or at the very least, have a giggle at my expense. I did!  😉 

Ever have one of those days (weeks?) where every direction you turn it’s something new that isn’t working?

I speak whale.
I speak whale.

Perhaps it’s a conversation you’re having with someone and you feel like you’re speaking in Whale.

Perhaps it’s that you’re trying desperately to be on time and the world around you (the kids, the dog, the car, the traffic…) is in slow motion.

Maybe it’s that at work you can see opportunities, but for some reason, no matter how you toil, they aren’t coming to fruition… like you’re standing in that fabulous cage full of blowing money, but they gave you satin gloves for your turn so you can’t grasp a single bill.

This is what I call “pushing rope.”  We all do it.  I usually don’t recognize I’m doing it until I’m way in it.   I look around me and wonder why nothing’s working, despite my grand efforts.

Some things aren’t meant to be pushed.

  • Wagons (well, you can, but it takes great skill and concentration to keep it going straight)
  • Doors that say “pull”
  • Wisk brooms (although toddlers insist on it, don’t they?!)
  • And rope.


It’s best to try from the other side with a gentle pull.  Sometimes that means learning a new language.  Sometimes it means understanding that slowing down for the moment might get you to your destination faster than rushing.  Sometimes it means simply being who you are and living your values so that others can respect (and even be attracted to) what’s living in you your life.

What are you pushing?  What could use a little pull instead?


P.S. Still laughing.


Julie Ford is a certified life coach, speaker, writer, facilitator and trainer. She helps organizations support their high performers through parenting transitions. With one-on-one and group coaching, she helps her clients to define what matters most in their lives, and to realize what is and isn’t working. Collaboratively, they move through a customized plan to find more joy and less chaos in the everyday.

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